Teens and Going out – When is it OK?

So when is the right time for them to start going out on their own? Technically, if you trust your teen, you’ll let them go with their friends and have some fun. But too much trust can get them in trouble, even if you think your teen is responsible and can make their own decisions, especially on personal relationships and safe sex. Below are a few guidelines to help you keep your teen safe when they’re going out.

Have a strict curfew

Talk to your child and give them a strict time limit. If you say that they have to be home at 10, they have to be home at 10. When it comes to curfew, be strict, but be considerate and give them some time to have fun. If for some reason they can’t come home during the curfew time, ask them where they are and pick them up. Don’t be mad if this happens, just tell your child to inform you an hour before their curfew if they can get home by themself.

Know where they’re going

Don’t ask this because you might drop by for a “surprise visit”. Ask where they’re going so that you’ll know where they are just in case something happens. You can never tell when accidents might occur, so for their safety and your peace of mind, ask them where they’re planning to go out and have fun.

Have contact numbers

Always make sure that if your teen is going out, their phones are fully charged and they still have minutes to make and receive calls. You should also ask for one of their friend’s cellphone number so you’ll still have a way to contact them if you can’t reach their number.

Know who they’re going out with

Tweens usually go out with their friends and classmates during the weekend or even after class. You’ll probably know who you teen is hanging out with, so trust them that they’ll keep themselves safe with their friends. Most of the time, you’ll also know who their friend’s parents are since you most like meet up during PTA meetings.

You can’t stop your kids from growing up and getting a life on their own. And no matter how much you talk to them about safe sex and being responsible, at the end of the day, you have to give them some trust. The least you can do is to know that they stay safe and far away from making mistakes that could change their lives forever.